This is the title of a Chinese movie. It’s not something I’ve ever been called by my FOO.
The movie is about three older siblings who, upon the death of their estranged father, find out that they have a much younger half-sister.
The older siblings have a shared history, lots of memories, which leave the half-sister out entirely.
She is the daughter of the woman who “ruined their family” – the woman their father left their mother for.
The older siblings are still angry and resentful towards the father — whereas the half-sister clearly loved her father.
An older woman in the film suggests that this is a good reason not to take her in, not to accept her, not to love her.
The half-sister understands the situation and internalizes this scapegoating: “Someone is always hurt, just because I exist.”
But these sisters can see the truth: “It had nothing to do with you!” And they invite her to live with them, to become part of their family.
The movie could have been over in the first 15 minutes. They could have gone to the funeral, met the half-sister, decided to be angry at her too, to blame her, and to push her away.
Instead they make the healthy, positive decision to love her, to include her, and not blame her for things she didn’t do.
And one of the older sisters says: “Maybe father was a kind man… He left us such a lovely little sister.”
Such a different ending to the story.